40, Single, Moved Back in with the Parents, Self-employed, oh and did I mention...Knocked Up...
A very dear friend of mine asked me a couple of weeks back.. So how do you position yourself these days, how could I sell you in? I thought about it for a minute, trying to come up with some corporate level pitch and I just laughed and said well let's tell it how it is...
Hi I am Emma... I have just turned 40, I am still single, I recently moved back to Perth so moved in with mum and dad until I decide where I would like to buy my own place, I have recently set up my own Brand and Marketing practice and writing a blog - which makes me a busy female entrepreneur, oh... and did I mention I am also pregnant!
We laughed and thought, sterotypically that really doesn't sound good, doesn't paint a positive picture to anyone who actually has no idea about me or my background and what I have recently been through, that 2016 has essentially been life changing for me. But that is exactly what we all do, we paint a picture in our heads of another person's situation or of those we don't know much about and we have a tendency to assume and gossip, it's human nature and very similar to media hype and stigmatism. Women can be quite mean yet we all know when it's time to rally together and support one another.
I am past caring what other people think, those that I want in my life will be the supportive, no judgement people and those who aren't, well quite frankly I really don't need them in my life, I have to say I am extremely lucky and have not encountered the latter as yet.
After a very rocky start to my year - losing my twin boys halfway through my pregnancy, leaving my job and career and selling my house in Sydney, I happened to come across this quote on my Facebook feed and I thought how very apt... "People change for two main reasons; either their minds have been opened or their hearts have been broken" In my case both of these things happened to me and little did I know that subsequently it would have such a major impact on my life and future.
If you have read my more recent posts, I talk about losing my Twin boys Seb & Sam, dealing with that, the medical issues that followed and being told to try again for a baby would take time (time wasn't really on my side so I fought against this timeline and won). At the same time I was trying to set my own Brand & Marketing Consultancy up in Sydney as well as writing this blog - I still haven't learnt how to do things by halves! And then I packed up my life in Sydney and moved back to the Wild West, to set up a new stage of my life in Perth.
Am I living the dream - YES, I am living up to my own values and focusing on what's important to me in this life.
Let's revisit my friend's question, about how to sell me in... well it probably wouldn't be a good time to sell me into a potential life partner I guess... but I have always said if the right guy comes along, he wouldn't care about any of this. Or even better, as Byron Katie quotes - Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror.
The real beauty of being a SMC is that we have no baggage - there's no ex or father of the child who wants shared custody or may not like another man in the child's life, it is just me and my baby - we come as a package and an amazing package at that!
I hope you enjoy this amazing poem by Tia Sparkles Singh... as much as I do.
As. you. are. Stronger than you know. More beautiful than you think. Worthier than you believe. More loved than you can ever imagine. Passionate about making a difference. Fiery when protecting those you love. Learning. Growing. Not alone. Warm. Giving. Generous. Quirky. Sexy. Funny. Smart. Flawed. Whole. Scared. Brave. And so, so, so.much.more.